Why Conservatives Cannot Change.

As a liberal from a conservative family, I have bona fides for this conjecture.

1964: Only four of us kids so far, Ann, Laura, Margaret, and I, with Becca not quite a twinkle.

What exactly are bona fides? Well, I am not sure. However, my parents died as Republicans, so I have, at least, as much incomplete knowledge of conservatives as anyone else that is exactly like me. Ironically, both my parents died before Obama was elected, which means they were never Trumpers, and they were never never Trumpers either. Anyways, my mom died in 2006, and my dad within two months of Obama’s win. I have always figured dad died at that point because he wanted his letter from the president for his service in WWII, to be from a Republican not a Democrat.

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Then at Highland cemetery, where Knute Rockne is also buried, a 21 round salute for a lifelong Norte Dame football fan alumnus, and US Navy Veteran!

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To back up a bit more, my parents started out as Democrats, since they voted for JFK, their first presidential election as a married couple. Both my dad and Jack being WWII vets must have been part of the reason he voted Democrat, and my mom kinda looked like Jackie O. Of course, the biggest reason was likely because Jack was Catholic, like my Polish father, and Irish mother.

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Dick and Dot were in their mid thirties when they hitched up. She had five of us in six years. My youngest sister, Rebecca was born a few weeks after Dot turned 41 in 1965. I did have a fifth sister, Mary. Both Margaret and her were born over three months premature. But Mary died within 24 hours. Margaret did end up with a twin, an Irish twin. For six weeks each year, her and I are the same age.

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Sadly, I did not realize until ten years ago that Margaret attended kindergarten at age six because I got held back, attending kindergarten the previous year. The reason I was held back was due to my hyperactivity. While understanding that ten month, school attendance difference I had with my sister was simple math, it is as if I only really thought about myself, most of my life. Actually, decades later I ended up being officially diagnosed with ADHD, and some level of narcissism is a common symptom of ADHD.

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Though the problem likely was how much I lived in my own head more than most people do, constantly creating alternate realities for myself. I did think about others, I just thought about specific things, not necessarily my sisters. Having four of them, two older and two younger, I figured they could think about each other, and I could think about my own things. Like why didn’t I have a brother, not to think about?

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As a Parent, I now agree we can be a good influence.

Luckily my parents, in their liberal phase, made me very aware of others. For example, they were better community organizers than Barack and Michele in the 1960s. Of course, the Obamas were young children back then. (It is amazing that Trump never picked up on Michele’s child bride status. Huh.). Dick and Dot’s community organizing began, when Dick engineered a coup on a housing project built across from my elementary school in 1970’s South Bend, Indiana. Some racist outside agitator, a White petitioner came into our neighborhood to tell my parents, using racist slurs, about the bad housing project being proposed by the city. Dad told the woman to leave the community, and never come back. He then went about crafting a different development that was still inclusive, and a plan he figured the Whites in the community would allow.

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He knew something would be going up no matter what, and that if the plan could be changed somehow, the community tension could be lowered. It was psychology 101; give Whitey even a small hand in the new idea, and they will feel like they fought city hall and won, and that pride will provide the space for concessions. Basically, Whitey must always feel they have total power. Rather than a high-rise, the city bought more land, and built about one single family home for every three duplexes.

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Mom and dad also set up a number of dinners to bring together White, and people of color couples including my best friend’s parents, who were the only Black family in our neighborhood for three years or more. Then a biracial couple moved in, on the block behind us. Their son went onto play for Notre Dame, the NFL Jaguars, and I think he became the team’s chaplain. Since I was in my own world then, I am not sure how often they had the dinners, but it must have been more than a few times, maybe dozens. Various couples were invited outside of our neighborhood as well, not just my parents, and the two couples noted above. Unfortunately, I have no recollection of who the other couples were either.

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Besides his community organizing, my parents were deeply involved in helping kids with disabilities. My oldest sister Ann has cerebral palsy, so it became a lifetime of service for them. They joined and ran local A.R.C. chapters in both Indiana, and then Iowa.

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My Dad had a Social Change perfection infection.

As proud as I am of my dad, he was not perfect, though he was much closer to perfection before we moved to Iowa. I still struggle to understand how he made such a turn for the political and social perspective worst. After more than a decade since both Dick and Dot have been gone, it makes more sense. Yet in other ways it makes less sense, like when I consider whether my parents would have accepted Trump as their dear leader.

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You have to understand that my dad was a very amazing guy. From an impact or expertise standpoint, he was a one-thousandth percenter, especially in the 1960s as an automotive engineer internationally, and as a community organizer in Indiana at least. I didn’t really understand all the things he did when I was younger, and before I was born, until after he died, and reviewing his papers, etc.

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Dick was also a one-thousandth percenter disrupter. He could not leave well enough alone. When there was something that must be said (but shouldn’t be said), he said it. This was 99.99% in a good way, as far as I know. Well, until he went to the other side, i.e. the right side, but not the correct one.

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Dad worked directly with Arthur E. Bishop from Australia, maybe the greatest engineer Down Under. He developed modern power steering with the help of my dad. Art was good friends with John DeLorean, and all three hung out together a number of times. Dick worked in connection with all Big 3 automobile companies, and their top people including Lee Iacocca and Henry Ford II.

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I discovered after he died that he had been a closeted libertarian. His mother’s house, which he had just bought, got eminent domained due to a new highway interchange. So in 1958 he wrote letters to Indiana’s governor, state authorities and legislators, his federal representative, and both senators to argue that he was not getting enough from the state for the house. The screed was an Ayn Rand Pulitzer. He had geeked out an elaborate diagram of the house, and yard to show his recent landscaping, and such. Being an excellent pencil artist, and an engineer, the presentation was very impressive. I am confident he bankrupted the state to get the money he surely deserved.

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The Catholicism Repression Angle.

My parents were serious Catholics. Abortion and gay marriage were their main nemeses. However, this ultra conservative angle was barely noticeable until the late seventies, when we were living in a near total White inbred, small town in southern Iowa. But before their turn for the worst, Dick and Dot voted for Carter in 1976. Then it was like they transferred their souls to Ronald Reagan Tolkein, and Rush Limpdog after 1980. Although Limpcog did not begin his Father “Hack King” Coughlin national radio hours until 1988, it was an obvious outgrowth of the R.R. Teflon Tongue Tolkein worship.

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I am guessing my parents were both sexually repressed as most conservatives and Catholics are. Most conservative Catholics profess some kind of disdain, or distress, for sexuality in general, as well as their own sexual habits, yet they are the ones who keep supporting a church that continues to sexually abuse its own children. Learning about sexuality beyond what their ancestors Moses Kowalski, or St. J. Baptist Patrick taught them, a thousand plus years ago, is sacrilege and relativism.

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Conservative Catholics confuse pedophilia with homosexuality, and the rhythm method with contraceptive reality. Papists want to combine such ideas about sex into one mass of puritanical paint-by-numbers puree to broad brush nuance, and science out of the picture. Broad brushing avoids and undermines change. Accepting that there is such a thing as LGBTQ people is like conservatives admitting that Trump is not a saint. Clearly, Catholics have not learned much about bullies since Pope Not So Pious Benedict IX, and have learned little about sex since St. Augustine fuct his wife and two mistresses.

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Sex in marriage is fine with conservative Catholics, but only to have babies. If you cannot have a child, you cannot do in vitro fertilization, use a surrogate mother, or have sex pretending you are trying to deceive a child. Therefore, most sterile Catholics get their marriages annulled, then retreat to convents and monasteries with Rod Dreher or Dolores Hart. Because if you are never going to have sex again, you might as well go to a place where you will bore the shit out of yourself.

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That said, in full disclosure, my wife and I have sex only when the Chiropractor diagnoses a problem, provides the correct corrective prescription: snapping our necks to sever our down-there regions from our hypothalamus, amygdala, and hippocampus, so we have zero corporeal sensations. We both think having as much sex as you want is great, but you should feel numb during the whole process. That is the one good thing I learned from my Catholic upbringing.

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Changing into Non-Changers.

How did my parents go from community organizing swingers in the 1960s and early 1970s to conservative, sexually repressed, government haters by 1980? I believe their changeover was an aging thing. Maybe you have heard the adage that as we age most of us get more conservative. I really don’t see that as true. Except for someone with a significant emotional or physical shock during their life, we have a certain perspective our whole adult life. Though we just may amp up our efforts or focus as we age. For example, as my aging has progressed, I have gotten more progressive. That said, what seems to be provable is, we get more conservative if our wealth increases, over a level that removes financial worries. Of course, for some that may only be more common in complementary areas of life such as taxes, economic theory, etc.

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Either way, our views are substantially fixed in many instances whether progressive, liberal, conservative or libertarian. However, the caveats of how we process change are very important. Note: I will mostly use liberal and conservative to limit wording, except where more exact nomenclature is required. Liberals are going to be open to more social change overall. Of course, liberals are also known for exhibiting some surprising similarities with conservatives when it comes to skin-color discrimination, or immigration if those changes hit too close to home.

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If we liberals brag about our openness, we will likely get hit back hypocritically hard in those fraught with the other situations. There is no perfectly open minded liberal. A large portion of Americans, especially Whites, will never experience too close-to-home paradigm shifting, so it is very easy for such people to strut around with an air of openness superiority. Making national policy that only ends up directly affecting a small portion of White Americans, should not be pursued as if we liberals are pure, when nothing will really change in our own lives. For example, a federal tax has a universal effect whereas a federal zoning mandate has only local effects, mostly in urban areas. In that case everyone not directly affected by the zoning change should likely cede something too, not just lord their supposed virtuous purity over others.

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By all means, we cannot think of these changes as penalties. Since those who have actually been penalized for decades, and are still being penalized, like Black Americans, by our omissions of thought and racist policies, got almost no sympathy from us, and certainly no consistent, substantial, or tangible empathy. This kind of thought process, where we have a concern for others not like us, is completely out of line with our current state of affairs. Not sexual affairs as in St. Augustine, but our political state of affairs, which actually could be the same in many cases. Especially when Trump is involved.

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Accepting Social Change.

Yes, as an engineer my father loved every new gadget, and worked with computers as soon as at-home versions were available, until he died at 83. That is not the type of change I am writing about. Conservatives struggle with social change. Why? Well, Catholics were mostly taught about the Bible from the pulpit, never knowing for themselves the contradictions and relativism it held. The new Latin mass fanatics, and at a previous Vatican II mass, you are, or were, taught from the backside of the Bible. Everything was backwards in the old world, now the new Latinites want to go back to backwards. There is so little ability for social change to occur in conservatives that they panic, and Rod-Dreher it back to when Christians were stoned and unhinged Druids.

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As to the Bible’s influence on conservatism, there are two versions of the old text. There is the one most Catholics never see, let alone read and study, while conservative Christians got their Bible from that one mythical good, kind, nice, and loving slave owner White Christian theologian they consistently inform us about. Muslims have the Koran, which many conservative Christians think does not promote peace. Conservative Christians version of the Bible promotes dogmaga. Sidle up to a big orange bully because god is telling you to. Now which version of religion is off its nut?

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No one is purely conservative or liberal. No one person is completely change reluctant or always fully open to change. However, those with a higher level of conservative bone fides are going to accept less social and-or economic changes. That must be the case, otherwise, there would be no consistent difference between left and right on the political spectrum, whether in voting patterns, etc.

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Some sects of both Christianity and Islam promote backwardness. Any backward promoter is dangerous. That does not mean there are no old ways that still work today. What does not work in America, is restricting the freedom of individuals by utilizing status quo pools of irrelevance, and corrupted religious dogmaga. We must also stop screwing up what individual freedom means, and how it cannot infringe on others:

  • Giving someone the freedom to vote, then limiting their ability to vote is wrong.
  • Someone denying consensus science cannot be allowed to destroy everyone else’s freedom, or life.
  • You cannot destroy another American’s life to get your no-mask freedom.
  • Freedom is not another word for tyrannical stupidity.
  • Forcing women to do what men want is wrong.
  • Until all men, for all time, can keep it in their pants, no other men should tell a woman, or vote for anything, about pregnancies, or to control any female parts. All men just shut the hell up. And every pope should shut the hell up until there is a pregnant female pope.

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Conservatives cannot change their social views because they cannot control themselves in a free world. They consider an updated idea about society as relativsim or anarchy. The Conservative Axiom: control the infidels so we can control our own Christain crazy. The haters of infidels want to control those they must harm. If gay marriage is legal, they cannot use their old book to justify the stoning of those infidels. If there are fewer heinous crimes, conservatives will stray from their life’s purpose: retribution, retribution, retribution. Of course, none of these high and righty conservatives would really want to go back to the year of our lord 1500, when Christians really did society right, before the Reformation.

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Changing the evangelical southern Christians’ ancient slavery informed, righteous idiosyncrasies has been nearly impossible. If Black Americans were given their due for the harms White Americans have allowed and are allowing, how could conservatives satiate their cravings for humiliation and punishment? Mass incarceration is a salve to their burning desires for complete dominion, especially over the infidels. A live and let be — if it doesn’t harm others — freedom ideology scares the shit out of conservatives.

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Basically, everything any adult does in the privacy of their own space is heinous unless it is duly sanctioned by a true pope of the old ways, one who wants done ass-backwards Latin mass, or is officially approved by the ghosts of Jimmy Swaggart’s prostitutes. All abortions are illegal now because conservatives changed their minds in the 1970s, and the Catholics changed their God rules in the late 1800s. Give freedom to individuals, and take it away later when your prophets get an itch in their down-there regions.

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The Catholics have been very inconsistent in their anti-abortion logic. They will use science to determine when a baby is a baby supposedly, but also use ensoulment as a criterion to outlaw abortion. Which is it man, serious science or saving souls? Choosing both provides no logical framework for either. Such a transient and contrived belief system splits Solomon’s infantile wisdom down the middle into half-assed. There are other problems too:

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Guess what? Ensoulment is not in the Bible. Neither is abortion, but some prophet sophist during the First Council of Nicea got to come up with any kind of bullshit he wanted.

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Obviously Jesus never spoke directly to abortion, and having no solid footing to start with, who got to make up these new–old rules? Sorry, I did find out who, in the 5th gospel, Dante, 6:66, Jesus said, make shit up.

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You might be all cocky thinking it was a bunch of 19th and early 20th century old as dirt dudes. Well… You are right. The White dudes did it. Weird, how Whitey guys show up, all the time, to hold women down.

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At least Christians are not like Muslim sects that make women wear burkas. Muslims only come up with these ideas because an old book gives future apparatchiks the right to fabricate all kinds of other shit. Hold it! That is what some crazy Christians sects do as well. Each religion has a sect or two who has morals and social conventions that seem to come from a revolving conspiracy of the densest hypocrites.

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As a male, I would imagine you also would not do everything that women would force you to do if they ran the world, or maybe I am just an outlier. Otherwise, we have a major change problem, especially with the Catholics, although other Christian sects maybe following suit. Anyway, both groups do not want anyone to have any premarital sex. If they are also against contraceptives, and abortion, have they ever thought about how avoiding-sexual activity does not work? The social science is clear on who has premarital sex, about 95% of us, and little has changed over time. Ergo, damning everyone who participates is as useless as the Vatican self-policing its harem of sexually repressed priests.

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Conservative Christians say they understand science and math, so they surely get the concept of odds. Even if God doesn’t roll dice, God surely knows how humans were created, and that for Noah and his troop to be fruitful and multiply successfully, required a zealot frequency of humping, pumping, and bumping. Pretending the male soul has been, and still is in many way, perniciously horny is sadistic naïveté, and harmful to women, which generates the potential for so many unwanted pregnancies, and abortions. Perhaps these Christians will never grasp the sex thing, so to speak.

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Just because sex does not float the boat of the repressed 5%, does not mean they should have control over the remainder of us. Spending such energy and time on a 95% sin, if it truly is a transgression, is a sinful waste of effort.

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Men are especially culpable and invisible in the apportionment of abortions. They have not only written most of the rules; men also do most of the impregnating, from what I remember. Men do a lot of what they do, too. If women cannot stop their results with contraception, abortion, or when they are impregnated by force, women are left with what rights? Men never need to proclaim their results publicly, while women must do it every time. Yes, DNA can be matched but that is a legal thing not usually a social public thing. Women growing a much bigger belly, and the sorry, shlepper, schlub, slinking away are not equal in any way.

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All I can say is guys are worthless if they think women should bow to their ridiculous, misogynistic ideas. Men get to fuck around with almost no consequences in this life, while women are regularly fuct by the system men have set up. If that isn’t the truest and most gruesome form of White male misogynistic irony, I have totally lost my irony awareness bona fides.

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Conservatives cannot change because they are narrowly focused on what others do, women, LGBTQ, and people of color. These ass-backwards Christians are illiterate at introspection, and in denial about their complicity in the violation of other peoples’ rights. They spend so much time and energy moralizing that they improve little for Americans. Their ability to make any good societal improvements is severely crippled by their hate of government, and the infidel, a.k.a. the other. However, the minimum conservatives must do, from here on out, is stay out of our pants, and stop trying to jerk us around and backwards.

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By Richard The Chwalek.

Writer/Consultant. Wife/Two-20 something daughters. Flyover Midwesterner. RN/Engineer son, been there/done some, antiracist, feminist, ecotarotcardist, politics

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